So uh, throughout our daily routines, we like. You know, come across many different people and talk to maybe like a few of them. This could include your friends, your boss, and even, like your Sociology professor or something. Like I said, we all follow a routine but uh, this totally doesn’t mean that the way we talk has to become a part of it. Yeah so…SNAP OUT OF IT!
We’re all victims of sloppy enunciation at one point or another. Nerves often exaggerate one’s tendency to use filler words especially during times of high stress and uncertainty. But have these fillers become a normal part of our society’s dialect? Is everyone just always nervous? Or are we just not aware of what comes out of our mouth? No matter what it is, slowly eliminating your usage of filler words will not only make you sound smarter, but it’ll also make you more conscious of what it is that you’re actually saying.
Even if you’ve done a lot of work on your online reputation and have gotten an interview or job (congrats!) this is something you’ll want to get a handle on. You might not even know you’re doing it, so take a look below with an open mind.
So What Exactly Are Filler Words?
You can most easily identify a filler word if it’s a part of speech that is commonly said by word of mouth and almost never written. They’re often irrelevant transitory words used to give yourself more time to find the right word you’re looking for, gather your complete thought or idea, and finally finish your sentence. To make things easier, here’s a list I compiled of these meaningless jargon words in no particular order:
I, like, really think I’d do good work at this job you know? –Unhired Job Applicant
“I think the president made a stern speech about the war in Iraq, but like I don’t think the troops are going to be withdrawn as quickly as hoped.”
Think of how much better the sentence would sound by simply taking out this one filler.
“I find myself leading towards the writing of Robert Frost his um cadence is um engaging.”
When reading this sentence out loud, one would assume that the two “ums” in the part of speech were used to give the speaker time to think of the exact adjectives he or she wanted to use to describe the works of Robert Frost. In situations like this-silence is golden. If you need extra time to think of a word that’s at the tip of your tongue, pause, take a short breath, think and move on.
3.) I Mean
Q: “If your house was on fire and your laptop was inside, would you run in and get it?”
A: “I mean, maybe not my laptop but my external hard drive.”
“I Mean” is commonly blurted out at the beginning of a thought which indicates that it’s your opinion. But when you’re having a conversation unless stated otherwise, everything you say is your opinion.
4.) You Know?
“It’s not everyday that you get to skydive, you know?”
Yeah, we know. Unless you’re a skydiving instructor.
5.) Like I Said
“Like I said before, the engineering department will see some new employees sometime next week.”
Repetition can be engaging if done correctly. If you’ve said something earlier in the conversation or presentation the audience will catch on to it without you telling them they’ve already heard it. Instead try to attach additional information to continue the idea to keep the audience interested.
6.) OK, so…
“Ok , so what you’re saying is that Florida orange juice is not from concentrate?”
Instead: Florida orange juice is not from concentrate? I need to change my morning pick me up brand!
- Any unnatural noises, screeches, sighs (which many people are unaware of-continue reading)
How To Fix Your Bad Habit
At first it may take some work, especially since the way you speak isn’t corrected every time you say an “uh”, “like” or “you know?”. One of the biggest issues is that people don’t hear themselves when they talk. It’d be a good idea to record yourself. It might be a bit embarrassing (and shocking) at first, but completely worth it.
By watching a recording of yourself, you have the opportunity to find out the exact filler words you use much too often. You may even pick up on things you want to work on like your tone of voice and facial expressions.
This way, you know the exact filler words you use much too often and may even pick up on things you may want to work on with tone of voice and facial expressions. Just remember that everyone’s speaking style is different and your personality shouldn’t have to be altered to adjust to the “right” way of speaking.
Silence Is Golden
Next, become familiar with some transitory words that can save you in times of great speech peril. These include “first”, “next”, “lastly”, “and”, etc. When we become excited to say something important, funny, or exciting we often don’t think about how what we’re going to say will sound. Take time to gather your thoughts and ideas. Don’t worry, your audience wants to hear what you have to say and your friends won’t run away for taking an extra second to take a breath. They’ll stick around and will be able to hear how clever you are once you get rid of all those junk words.
Ask For Help
When making any changes in daily life, it’s great to have a support system. Ask friends, co-workers, or family to pick up on any fillers you use. Every filler word spoken gives you the opportunity to become aware that you say it, and to try even harder to avoid it. Once you become conscious of the words, you can stop them in your head and avoid them from coming out of your mouth.
Take A Breather
Employers, friends, and family will never call you out for taking a moment to breathe. This can prevent you for blabbing and giving out personal or too much information. Interviewers especially hear several interviewees in a day and they like to be impressed with the quality of the content, not quantity. You don’t want to talk their ear off.
What kind of vocabulary are you comfortable using? Avoid using big words just to impress them, especially if you’re not entirely sure of the definitions or how to use them correctly.
Instead of whipping out those SAT words that you barely remember, focus on getting to your point in a way that is clear and to the point.
When it comes to your pace and cadence, it’s better to pause and reflect than to rush through what you’re trying to say in hopes of getting the interview over and done with ASAP. Slow down, consider the questions – but also, make sure that the interviewer’s eyes don’t glaze over during a 2 minute “reflection pause”.
It may take some time, but with a little practice you’ll sound like the professional, accomplished and composed person that you are. If you have any more filler words that you’d like to add to the list, or any other ways that you’ve helped yourself stop saying them, like, leave a comment!